Wednesday, March 2, 2005

March 2, 2005: Grandma Gonyo's Advice

"Don't dwell on the past. I know at this time of the yr. it is hard not
to think about it but remember ACCEPT THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE- COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS YOU CAN AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bob worshipped both you and Joannie and he was a wonderful son to me always so thoughtful to everyone. He would always remember his Grandma with little gifts and she thought the sun rose and set in him. You know how much Pauline thought of him. She always said he seemed more like her son as he was so considerate and good to her as Ken was not that thoughtful at times. We cant change things but I do know Bob would want the very best for you and would want you to be happy. Nowadays more is understood by the Doctors than it was long ago. I was always so proud of both of my boys . I thought they were both good looking and so good always to me. We had many good times together. We can't go back and change anything so the best thing is to keep your mind busy, don't sit around and brood about something you can't do anything about. You can take care of yourself. I try to delve into some project around here.  I work on Norms book work which keeps me from thinking about how old I am and how wrinkled I'm getting. As Abraham Lincoln said, "You can be as happy as you make up your mind to be. No one's life is perfect and no one gets thru life without troubles. You think some people are so happy but you find out everyone has a cross to bear. Remember everyone who took their troubles in a sack to church and put them on the altar, the priest said you could pick anyone's sack to take home and everyone took home their own sack. When you think of what a sweetheart you are, you are able to walk, see, have a job and a nice car to go places, how many people would love to be in your shoes. When I see these young gals (renters of Norms) tied down with kids, no money, waiting table to make enough for food and rent and they come up short all the time, my cleaning lady cleans every day to make ends meet and her one daughter ran away and the son is hyperactive and she is so tired when she comes, she goes with a crumb bum who drinks
and one door is off his car and it is painted 3 different colors and I think WHAT A LIFE !!! Be thankful for all the good things."
Love
Grandma